Internet Dating Services Blog

Are you a serial monogamist?  Do you participate in a two- to three-year relationship, are deeply involved, very much in love, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, and physically satisfied—then run away, only to launch into another monogamous relationship with the same characteristics?  You are probably also exceptionally busy or active, complete and independent on your own, but at the same time you are particular about your wishes and needs when it comes to choosing the “next one-and-only”.  You feel that it is tough to find that special someone, especially since you believe the experience of dating is necessary as a means to romance and marriage, and given your requirements for the mates you tend to get involved with.

If this sounds like you, don’t worry, you are not alone.  And the internet dating services culture knows this.  For example, one internet dating service—TopDatingTips.com–reveals poll results wherein of those surveyed, 59% believe it is difficult to meet someone special.  62% agree standards and expectations are too high.  And 35% say they hate being single.

But here’s what an internet dating service does to alleviate the pressures and pains of being single and finding someone to change that single status: an internet dating service typically has a generic, traditional section, where you can find friends with like interests—so if you’re stuck with describing yourself, as oh, I don’t know, one who likes to walk on the beach and look at the moon, you can actually find others who have chosen to disclose this same interest.  An internet dating service might also have a more serious “relationship” goal section, where you can search for the ultimate long term relationship—marriage (which 19% of those surveyed above said was the aim of dating to begin with).

As well, an internet dating service that is more cutting edge will have an alternative section (also known as the anything goes, or adult, section) where you can do as you please with whomever you please.  Here you need no serious involvement, no commitments beyond agreeing to using kindness, honesty, and fun as your basis for connecting.

You probably know by now that contrary to grossly over-generalized myths of internet daters being obsessive stalkers, loathsome hound dogs, and skanky wannabes, the people at online dating services are you, me, and us.  They are people who work, who have families, who have interests, morals, values, skills, likes and dislikes, etc., etc., ad nauseum.  And they have similar ulterior goals, needs, desires, fetishes, and motives, and appreciations to yours–if you’re in the right section, the section you can truthfully admit to yourself you want to be categorized in.

So depending upon which phase you’re in—whether you’re looking for mutually-motivated partners for love, sex, bonding, binding, or friendly fondling—you, first of all, are not a freak, and second, will probably be quite content with the contacts you make through internet dating services, and will likely even meet your next long-term mate…if that is what you still want.

Now once you know what you want, why not give an internet dating service a try if you haven’t already?  The hardest part to getting started is just picking the right one (or ones), since there are so many out there now (just as there are so many other people doing it!).  One of the top internet dating services I’d recommend is Lavalife.  The reason is not only is it a popular internet dating service, but it has three sections for you to place your profile on depending upon what you want.  The three sections are: Dating, Relationship, and Intimate Encounters.  This is a fairly unique feature to Lavalife that lets you tell others exactly what you are looking for and to help you find exactly what you want.

In addition, Lavalife is free to join and doesn’t require a monthly fee (you only buy credits as you use the site).  In this respect, Lavalife is truly a pay for what you use experience, which can often save you some money in your quest for that next special someone.  Go ahead and give it a try – just get started!  And if Lavalife is not quite right for you, try a free profile at Yahoo Personals or Perfect Match too.  Both are top notch and effective internet dating services.

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